My New Life
22 of February 2009, my life has changed, well not literally all changed... I was become Mrs. Ardi. Found myself as someone's wife.
The time when my father gave me to Ardi as in Akad Nikah, I was realize that I'm no longer a single woman. Have to surrender all my ego, and always try to be more patients, more compromise and the main thing is, not so stubborn anymore, because now I have my own husband to listen to.
Pratomo Ardianto, that's my husband name. Born in Jakarta, 5th of February 1983, being an Aquarius surrounded by his family background, makes him a person who has low self-esteem, and very picky. He can be a very artistic person sometimes and like to fall in love, loving more with his mind, not his heart, and that's what I like about him. He's a rational person, very contrary with me, born in Tangerang, 13 October 1982, surrounded by my family background, makes me a very irrational person and very easily distracted, hehehe.. He don't know how to love his life, that's why God makes him met me, because I am a person who love my life and know exactly how to enjoy life (even in irrational ways, haha!).
How did I met Ardi? Ardi was my classmate last time at Junior High School, but we were at different peers groups. Until about 10 years later we met again, at the police office station accross our school, while we were extend our driving licence. It was a very unpredictable meeting. A very 1:1.000.000.000.000 probabilities that he decided to say hi to me that time. Even the situation was still very confusing. He was still dating other girl, while me dating other guy too. But aparently we spent too much time together, that both of us can feel a small feeling has grown slowly, and that makes him decided to leave that other girl, and asked me dating him. I had a situation too, guy I was dating with for almost 6 years that time was a Catholic. Which makes me a very bad moslem, if I still dating him, hehe... Even tough I still love him so much, but (Lucky!!) I decided to get along with Ardi instead then... I still feel it's my best decission ever!!!! Then I started to work in Singapore, while Ardi worked in Jakarta. Long distance relationship for about 1 year, quite made us crazy sometimes. After that, Ardi moved and started working here in Singapore until now. The moment he moved here, I saw my future picture with him slowly appears, details by details was drawn, more clearly each days, and I think he felt the same way too. Then we decided to get married, exactly 2,5 years after we first met at the driving centre :)
Everything for our wedding day went as well as what me&Ardi wish to happened, even better. The pre-wedding, the engagement, the wedding preparation, the details, the decoration, the dress&tux, the food, the family, the akad nikah, the reception and the even the moment after. Is was a very beautifull outdoor garden party ever!!
We found the ideas from the images on the internet, then we put it together for our wedding day. And here's the result :
Here's our wedding web link : http://wedding.sophisticity.com/
It was quite challanging at the first time I must admited, since me&Ardi were working in Singapore while the event was going to be held in Jakarta. So we had to have all of my family members to help us do all the preparations.
Facing Ardi's family characters was another challenge. A lot of contra versions between me&Ardi and his family (specially his Mom). It even started since we declaired our date to get married. Instead of gave us psychological support, she tried to make us pushed the date. After that, the time, and then the rest followed one by one, problems by problems appears, just because of differences on what me&ardi wanted and Ardi's Mom wanted. We sometimes got very frustrated, but then our strong will to our next big step is still bigger than anything else in the world. Knowing that Ardi's still on my side makes me always come back to him again. I realize that we are really meant to be together.
Well, after our wedding day, many people keep asking me this question : "How does it feels?" Honestly, I don't feel any changes in me except for my social status (as a wife now). Because everything just feels like it used to be. Ardi never treats me differently than before. I am trying my best to do so too. Well for Ardi's side perhaps now he can feel more responsibilities he should bear with him. For us it's like our dating time, but this time we don't have to worry to do the SEX things, not worry of anybody else would talk bad things about us, since everything is halal, lol!! So basically, me&Ardi feels very happy about our new journey of life, and we're looking forward for every single new things happened to us.
Kids? Oh sure we want them so bad!!! Specially Ardi. First week of our marriage day, we already looked around the bookshop for a book about how to get baby's sex as we want, lol... Now, we're trying to get ones :) boy or girl we don't mind as long as healthy, smart and sweet kids.. wish us luck!!
Ardi is my life. Like architecture, his blood also run together with my blood beneath my skin...
He's the air that I breath, he's like nutrition for my soul, I love my hubby :)
